Getting Rid of Things That Hold You Back

Our lives are like a bunch of coconuts where some of them taste good and some taste bad. These rotten coconuts represent areas, circumstances and people that you need to let go of your life. They made you feel that you are limited and plain stuck with old behavior and beliefs.

Each of us holds onto some things that hold us back and limit ourselves, if you have experience these moments at some points in your life, rest assured that it is perfectly normal. We all do have those moments that we are unwilling to let go and afraid to move beyond those barriers that are holding us back.

Everyone has a story. The story of your past may be interesting, challenging or disheartening. The journey we take and the roadblocks we encounter are the things that shape our character. The truth is, most of your perceived limitations are created by you or by someone important in your life. What we become largely has to do with the people and beliefs we were exposed to. So how do you decide when it is the best time that you need to let go of the things that hold you back?

Things will never get better, no matter how hard you try

You put in extra hours, deliver better results than expected, accept more responsibilities, but your values or contributions are often overlooked. These aren’t dead ends, but also something that would not improve over times. Most of us are stuck in this phase. We become so comfortable because it has a zero risk. We often resist being treated as constant because we believe each of us has a unique destiny, a mission and purpose for our existence.

Perceived weaknesses overshadow strengths

Admitting your weaknesses is good and trying to improve them may benefit you in the long run. But do not allow your weaknesses to take more control of yourself. Putting more time and efforts in enhancing your strengths will yield better end results and productivity. We are so much focused on trying to figure out our shortcomings and improving things that do not please us. Performance reviews often focus too much on the weaknesses of an employee while disregard his/her strengths. In fact, there is a fairly heated and philosophical debate going on in management circles. The question is this: should organizations focus on their employee’s strengths or weaknesses? If strengths are the secret of happiness, shouldn’t we all be focusing on them and not wasting time with all the other bits?

Indecision cripples self-confidence

We all suffer from indecision at times. Indecision is caused by uncertainties about the outcomes. These uncertainties are largely derived from the lack of faith in accomplish something. When you doubt your abilities and skills, you are suffering from low self-confidence. Self-confidence is often a more important asset than skill, knowledge, or even experience.

Burning desire beginning to suffer

We are often motivated by tangible and intangible rewards. While tangible rewards could be fairly important, your passion and burning desire are often the most important factors that motivate you to take actions. Burning desire is what gets you through all the perspiration necessary to overcome the inevitable obstacles along the way. If you find yourself lack of burning desire, it is probably a signal for you to move on to new challenges and new ideas.

Who Among Us Will Survive The Day After December 21, 2012

We’re less than 2 days far away from the apocalyptic catastrophe that was predicted to occur on Dec 21, 2012.  Forget Santa’s ornaments, people have been focusing on doomsday all over the social media space. The rumour of the world is going to end on Dec 21, 2012 started because it marks the end of an age in a 5,125- year old Mayan calendar.

The phenomenon has been fuelled relentlessly by conspiracy theorists and Internet doom-mongers. Even Hollywood got into the trend by releasing a movie that was named as 2012. Both astronomers worldwide and NASA have dismissed such allegations and posted several posts on its website to debunk the myth.

[sws_blockquote_endquote align=”left” cite=”NASA” quotestyle=”style01″] For any claims of disaster or dramatic changes in 2012, where is the science? Where is the evidence? There is none, and for all the fictional assertions, whether they are made in books, movies, documentaries or over the Internet, we cannot change that simple fact. There is no credible evidence for any of the assertions made in support of unusual events taking place in December 2012. [/sws_blockquote_endquote]

NASA has also dismissed false rumours circulating on the Internet where a total blackout is predicted to occur on Dec 23-25. Now you might be thinking if NASA claims the allegations of the end of the world are false, then why so much attention was given to the topic.

The ideas thrive because people feel marginalized or alienated from the society. Such predictions exist for centuries, and the Mayans were not the first one to make the claim. We have heard of Nostradamus theories, the so-called future World War III, melting of polar ice and so on.

People look everywhere in search for answers. We are so compelled in looking for the truth and just keep reading. Curiosity and the need for answers are parts of human desire. Believing the world will ends creates a framework of meaning where we would see at some point of time; our own personal lives hold some kind of significance.

The belief persists because some retailers are profiting from the hype. In the US, companies that are selling underground shelters have seen their businesses explode. The people of the Republic of China were rushing to buy candles because a post on Sina Weibo predicted that 3 days of darkness would occur.  Mexico’s tourism agency has launched Maya themed events where it expected the number of tourists arriving to have doubled this year. It’s all about business.

Pushed by pain or pulled by possibilities, eventually you will be compelled to pass through the door called “uncertainty”. The doomsday fear is nothing more than reflections of uncertainty toward life and society. People hate uncertainty not just on gut level but also at a deep neurological level. We must live with fear because it would pop out from time to time. It’s a standard programme that comes pre-installed as part of being alive.

2012 represents the end of one cycle, and the beginning of another. It’s very much the same way people look at the end of year and embrace another year where we would reflect upon the things that happen during the year, and considering our future direction.

The Importance of Being Strategic

It all comes down to the fact that we all have very limited resources. It doesn’t matter how big or small the company is, there is a limit. That limit can be in the form of cash, time and top talent that are fundamental to turn any opportunity into a successful achievement.

Being strategic starts with the base understanding that how do we maximize the benefit, the payoff and the return on those limited resources. The vision, the goal and the target you’re trying to achieve also about how you leverage those scarce resources in the shortest amount of time with the least amount of effort and at the same time with the highest level of certainty.

What often gets in the way of people is that they’re being opportunistic in trying too many things. They’re going to try 10 different things as opposed to one because they believe that somehow it would be a better approach. The truth is, they’ll fail at all then, and they would have done much better focusing on just one only.

If they’d had a higher level of commitment, they’d get it done faster and less overwhelmed and overloaded.  When people are hyper-opportunistic, they’re totally focused on payoff and they haven’t even considered that there is a trade-off.  The least number of things that we need to do to get to that final result, leads to a much more focused, much more strategic approach.

If someone is trying to do all the different swimming strokes at the same time he or she will probably drown. You have to pick an approach, pick a style. You have to stick with that style long enough to get feedback to judge if it’s working or not. You don’t have to stay with that forever. But you have to commit to it now, and you have to commit to it long enough to see whether the results are what you hoped for.



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